What I Would Do Differently
In Neil’s book, he suggested that there should be a limit of two people per group. Basically one-on-one discipleship. He said when a third person is added plans should be to start another group, with the first person you started with leading the new one.
I didn’t do that. I started with at least five men in each group. Both grew. The second grew to ten to twelve people. I thought it would be better with more.
But looking back, I should have stuck to Neil’s plan, at least no more than four or five. The more people we added, the more we got bogged down with the questions. We were always rushing. And we lost the intimacy of the small numbers. In both groups, that was the primary downfall. We lost what we had at first.
The second thing I would do differently is related to the first. To start new groups you need new group leaders. I led both groups. I was the pastor so I was expected to lead. When there came a time when we should have split into another group, I didn’t have anyone ready to lead that group. Doing it again, I would start from the first session stressing to everyone that you are expected to lead the next group. I would repeat it strongly and often. I would build it into the DNA of the group. I would share the leading of the group with others. I would eventually take myself out of the leadership role. Then I could be the one to lead the beginning of the next group.
One other thing I would do would be to start a women’s group also. I would find my strongest lady and lay out the agenda and how to lead through the process. Maybe come up with different questions that relate more to women.
I believe in this process. I believe it is closer to how Jesus discipled the apostles. I think with the right tweaks, this could have a multiplying effect within our churches. With the right, enthusiastic leaders, it could cross church boundaries. It could be used at work during lunch break. It could be used with neighbors.
It’s not a perfect template. But it does seem more effective than some of the other plans I’ve tried. I believe it’s a large step in the right direction of making real, Biblical disciples of Jesus Christ.
What are your thoughts? What has proven effective for you?
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